Shona

Matukirwo ababa kunema mwana

The father is reproached like how one playfully reprimands a child.

Tsanagudzo

Kutsiura mukuru kunoitwa nezira yakahwanda kwete zviri pachena.

What the Words Say

The father is reproached like how one playfully reprimands a child.

What It Means

Reproof or criticism is best conveyed indirectly.

Cultural Context

Shona culture is characterized by tremendous respect for the elders and those in positions of authority or power. Reproaching any of these has to be done tactfully. While one may be correct and well meaning, the direct approach usually breeds contempt or ramifications, if the elder feels they have been disrespected or shamed. Hence our elders used the example of playfully reprimanding a child to be the manner of how to criticize or rebuke those who are in authority or power.

How It's Used

The proverb is used to advise those seeking to be critical to elders or those in positions of leadership on how to go about it. Its useful for understanding even modern day advocacy to those leadership. It can also be used to restrain a leader who may feel offended by the indirect approach as a reminder that no harm was intended by the approach.